The Paradox of Growth

Most people think growth comes from discontent.

“If I just push harder, I’ll finally get where I want to be.”

But what if the opposite is true?

What if growth only happens when you’re already at peace with where you are?

For years, I thought I needed to be constantly striving to improve.

I believed that if I wasn’t moving forward fast enough, I was falling behind.

That my discontent was fuel—the thing that would drive me to the next level.

But I noticed something.

The harder I pushed from a place of anxiety, the slower my progress became.

When we believe we’re not where we’re “supposed” to be…

  • Every milestone feels unsatisfying.
  • Every moment of stillness feels like wasted time.
  • Growth becomes a frustrating chase, rather than a natural process.

Contentment isn’t about settling—it’s about stability.

It’s the difference between planting a tree in solid soil vs. constantly digging it up to see if it’s growing.

When you’re content, you’re:

Grounded, not grasping.

✔ Focused on expansion, not escape.

✔ Moving with growth, instead of forcing it.

Ironically, the best progress happens when you don’t need it to happen.

Because growth thrives in a state of presence, not panic.

Most people think they’ll feel content after they reach their goals.

But contentment is a practice, not a destination.

I’ve put together a Mindfulness & Contentment Worksheet + Meditation to help you:

✅ Find peace in the present while still aiming for growth.

✅ Shift from anxious striving to effortless momentum.

✅ Build daily habits that reinforce stability and expansion at the same time.

Download it below 👇

About the author

Hi, I'm Gabe, an ICF executive coach with over 12 years of experience helping leaders like you overcome challenges and achieve extraordinary results.

Based in Vancouver, BC, I’ve had the privilege of working with over 1,000 wonderful clients since 2012, guiding them on their unique journeys of transformation.

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